Exactly. However, she often went to spend time with her lover with our three children in tow! How? Simple, she would go to his house and ask his wife to look after the children whilst she and the woman's husband (her boss) went off alone to do some work in private. The poor woman innocently complied. Thinking about it, that is yet more projection. She presumed that since she could pull off that nasty little trick, so could I.