Oh boy, I feel for you. Been through that twice! It was all exactly how you put it. Here’s a link to my version, which is not dissimilar to yours, including the telephone discovery.

https://medium.com/illumination/how-a-telephone-bill-saved-my-life-648f8cddc28e

It’s in two parts as it was such a truly traumatic experience to go through. The second part, for which there is a link at the end of part one, deals with an attempt to kill me.

If it's any comfort, after ten years of not going near a woman, after my second divorce, I met an amazing woman, fell in love, got married, and now live in heavenly bliss in East Asia. Nine years this year and still going strong. I hope you too find the true love that you deserve. Best wishes.